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Here are the eight words you should never say to your partner.

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In every relationship no matter how beautiful, there’s bound to be conflicts of interest between the two parties involved.

With conflicting interests, arguments occur. But arguments and misunderstandings can be properly managed with the right amount of civility and objectivity from both parties involved.

To handle conflict maturely, certain words and phrases must be avoided. This is because words are powerful; leaving a lasting impression on the subconscious of our loved ones. It is important therefore, to remain calm during arguments or during a misunderstanding and carefully select the words we use.

For longer lasting relationships, avoid using these eight phrases with your partner;

1) Shut Up

The phrase, ‘shut up’ tends to fly around easily during arguments. Usually, in the heat of the moment, blurting out this hurtful phrase is an attempt at imposing an end to the discussion on your partner.

Asides being hurtful, ‘shutting your partner up’ is highly disrespectful as it implies you have little regard for their opinion and what they have to say at that moment.

Should you feel reluctant to engage in an argument or discussion with your partner, simply suggest to them politely that you’d rather have that conversation on a later time.

2) I Wish I Never Dated You

Saying these words or ‘i wish i never married you’ to your partner begets serious repercussions even when said ‘harmlessly’.

Similarly, blurting out comparisons between your partner and your ex for instance, is completely foul and disrespectful. Never for instance, say things, “I wish you could be more like [insert ex’s name]”.

3) You’re a Failure

Nobody deserves to be humiliated because they do not meet your expectations for them least of all, your lover. If you feel your partner is a failure, you probably have no business dating them in the first place.

Of course, this doesn’t mean it’s inappropriate to encourage your beau/belle to do better. In fact, being a force of raw and uncut honesty and support system for your partner whenever they flop is a blessing. But in doing so, being sympathetic, patient, and loving is sure to drive your partner into doing better.

4) You’re an Idiot

Along with every other curse word or phrase is a huge no, no. Should you feel frustrated, or hurt by your partner, convey your feelings to them respectfully.

5) You’re Too Fat/Skinny

As ‘helpful’ as you may feel uttering this to your partner, this is pure suicide. Bodyshaming isn’t restricted to harsh or over-dramatic comments alone. Telling your partner they are too fat or thin is a sure ticket to letting them know you do not appreciate them just the way they are.

6) Truly depressing

If for medical reasons, you’re concerned about your partner’s weight, book them an appointment with a medical specialist and support them the best way you can.

7) I’m Leaving You

In whatever form aid, this phrase should be avoided unless actually meant.

Avoid threatening or emotionally blackmailing your partner with threats of divorce or break up. It’s not only a sad attempt at getting their attention, but also a seed that when germinated, could actually lead to an actual separation.

8) I’m Sorry But

Uttering this phrase to your partner, negates your apology. By including ‘but’ in an apology, you’re indirectly half-assing an apology to your partner.

This means that despite your wrongdoings towards them, your actions are justifiable. Not a great move if you plan on making your relationship work.

Sure these are not the only words to avoid saying to your partner as there are a number of similarly abominable words and phrases.

In learning how to accurately communicate with your beau/belle, insist on treating them first with respect, decency, and love no matter the situation.

 

Source: TheCablelifestyle

I am Imoukhuede I. From Edo State, Nigeria, with Bsc in Economics. I am a media practitioner, entrepreneur, writer, model, and blogger. The founder of CrystalzPage.com

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Our Today’s #MCM Goes To Ex-BBnaija 1st Runner Up Mike Edwards.

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Mike Edwards and Ex-BBnaija housemate 1st runner up in the 2019 BBNaija reality TV show tagged pepper Dem gang.

He is currently a professional athlete, a model, a business magnate, an investor, an entrepreneur, a CEO of aireyys cigars company in the United kingdom (UK).

He was signed recently in Eme record label company. The owner is BankyW

Instagram: @aireyys

He was born on the 11th of July 1991 in manchester. He is 28 years old, married to a beautiful wife Perris shales-drayton a model, tv personality and a British Olympian athlete.

Today Crystalzpage soon to be upgraded to Imie’s page had revealed that he is our #MCM today.

More photos of Mike Edwards below:

 

 

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The 10 important steps towards self growth and development.

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 Self-improvement is one of the most important traits a person can possess. If you don’t have that urge then you will never be able to get far and progress in your life.

We are all human so therefore we are not perfect, but there is always room for improvement and we should always try to be the best version of ourselves.

Here are some top tips on entering the path of personal growth and self-development.

1. Know yourself.

Who are you? Who do you aspire to be?

Always remember to be yourself, and to focus on yourself and what YOU want. In a world that expects us to conform and fit in it is sometimes hard to just be ourselves, but it is better to avoid conforming to other people’s standards, expectations and ideals because often they are not realistic and aspiring to these can make us miserable. It is better not to care what people think of us because we will be judged regardless, so remember, be the best version of yourself, not someone else’s copy.

Remember: “It is better to be hated for who you are than it is to be loved for something you are not.”

Embrace yourself!

2. Get out of your comfort zone.

Resting on your laurels means that you will not grow. Get out of your comfort zone, put yourself out there, take risks and aim to do something different, such as learning a new skill or hobby.

3. Develop a thick skin

You cannot please all of the people all of the time and like I mentioned before, certain people will always find any excuse to put you down, belittle you and judge you.

Unfortunately, that’s life. The best thing to do is to develop a thick skin. Treat other people’s bitter and jealous comments as water off a duck’s back.

4. Learn to assert yourself.

In life we often go through tough situations. One of the most important skills you will ever need to learn is how to assert yourself. That means standing up for yourself, making your feelings known instead of bottling them up and putting your needs as first priority as well as other people’s.

5. Adopt good habits.

Struggling with time keeping? Learn to complete tasks earlier. Having a hard time staying organised? Get a diary and write down to-do lists and deadlines. Unable to keep yourself motivated? Remember to focus on your goals and remember why you started. Adopting good habits means that you will not fall behind and you will go even further.

6. Create a plan and a list of goals.

Where do you see yourself in 1/2/3/5/8/10 years’ time? If you know your ambitions, write them down so that you have a clear view of the goals you would like to achieve.

7. Be kind and generous.

Always be kind and generous, for everyone is fighting a battle and the world operates better on kindness and generosity. Set out to help others but if you can’t help them then at least don’t hurt them. There is nothing to be gained from being bitter, nasty, horrible and spiteful to others. If you feel the need to be vicious towards others then that says a lot more about you that it does about others. Genuine acts of kindness will get you far.

8. Remember the simple and the most important things in life.

It’s so easy to get caught up in the daily grind of life, but it’s imperative to remember the important aspects of life. It’s all about the little things, like going out on a walk in the park for fresh air, spending time with a best friend, picking up the phone to call a sibling, smelling the blossoming flowers or smiling and saying high to a neighbour when you walk past them in the street.

9. Learn new skills.

Learning doesn’t end when you finish school. Learning is a lifelong journey. Take up a new hobby, whether it’s crafting, designing, coding, painting, learning to play a musical instrument or taking up a new sport. Adding more strings to your bow is quite impressive and it shows that you are a well-rounded person.

10. Be happy!

It sounds like the simplest advice one could ever give, but it’s so true. Be happy! Life is far too short to live in misery. See the positives and don’t dwell on the negatives.

Source: lifegoalsmag.com

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Things To Do If You Are Feeling Hopeless About Your Future.

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Do you feel lost and hopeless in life? There comes a time when life seems to lose its meaning. This is the time you need to be a strong man or woman.

Life has never been easy. You must wake up from slumber and make things work in your favour.

It takes sacrifice and commitment to reach your goals in life. We have looked at things to do if you’re feeling hopeless about your future.

1. Reset your goals

It can be important to revisit your goals. Some goals are not achievable in life.

Find out whether your goals are realistic and attainable before you proceed with life. Being too ambitious can make life unbearable in the long run.

2. Surround yourself with strong people

The people in your life really matter. Never waste time on negative minded persons.

The persons who are in your life will determine your success or failure. Make sure the people in your life are contributing to you positively.

3. Keep the fire burning

Stick to your vision in life. Remember success is not an easy walk. Stand up and make things count.

You will be expected to make all kinds of sacrifices if you want to achieve the desires of your heart at the end of the day.

 

Source: Hivisasa

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